Sometimes we just need to figure out how to deal with the here and now. What we’re dealing with may not have a diagnosis, but is troubling non-the-less. It is what I call a bump in the road. A person may gain clarity by just talking it out.
Then there are the other deeper issues where we have beliefs about ourselves that aren’t productive or helpful. These tend to lead to repeating patterns of behaviour that are self-sabotaging.
Then there are the depression and anxiety issues that have arisen from abuse during the developmental years. These are the young years when you are just developing and have few resources or alternatives.
If you have been abused during these years you may be facing attachment issues that make relationships difficult for you.
What is abuse? We all know that sexual and physical abuse and witnessing trauma is abuse. But so is seeing domestic violence: If you have faced constant criticism growing up or been invalidated this is also abuse. A chaotic, unstable home also has the same effect.
If you have been raised by a parent with a personality disorder, you may have been their target and not the other siblings. Those siblings, may be telling you to “get over it”, never having experienced what you did.
I use cognitive-behavioural therapy, dialectical behaviour therapy and internal family systems therapy. Because I believe that trauma is held in the body, I teach tapping and emotional freedom techniques which target acupressure meridians.
I am trained to Level Two in the Gottman method of marriage therapy. I usually find that most of my clients run into trouble with intimacy. The true meaning of intimacy is to know and be known. If we cannot share our deepest hopes, dreams and fears with our partner then we are undermining the foundation of the relationship.
I also just listen to the story you have to tell, and we can decide together what is best for you at this point in time.
My first degree was a Doctor of Veterinary Medicine. After illness I returned to school and obtained a Masters of Science in Marital and Family Therapy and became a Registered Psychologist.
I have worked for Alberta Health Services on their mental health team providing mental health services to the people of Northern Alberta. I have also spent 5 years at a Christian counselling ministry. I am now in private practice. I also work with sexuality especially sexuality throughout the life span. I provide a safe place for people to discuss difficult matters.