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Thinking of living alone
I do not love my husband anymore
Posted By : SSS Date: 20 JUN 2014

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Dear SSS:

Let me say this first and foremost. we are here to help. Proven Therapy can help you through this difficult time. Marriage problems are relationship problems and they are a results of how two people interact with each other. When we walk away from a marriage we still bring the way we interact with others along with us. We carry those issues on to the next relationship. Something initially attracted you to your husband and you loved him. Please note that often times problems in a marriage are simply communication issues that have eroded the quality of the marriage through time. Remember our thoughts feed our feelings. Think about how your thoughts are feeding the feelings or lack thereof ( of love ) towards your husband. Sounds like you are inching towards a trial separation. I don't know what you are dealing with at home in terms of his behaviors, thought patterns...is he neglectful, is there substance abuse, emotional abuse? Please do not hesitate to seek help from a therapist that has in depth knowledge in the area of relationships. I am available most evenings after 6pm. Seek help from someone before making a big decision. some choices stay with us forever, some moments change us. Thank You for reading. Carmen Fernandez - New Therapist section
Response By: Carmen Fernandez Date: 8 JUL 2014

Dear SSS, 

I think the first thing to start with for you is weighing the pros and cons of both staying and living alone. Have you tried any couple's counseling to see if it's possible to get back on track? Is he willing to work on the marriage? Are you? If you have made up your mind that the best thing for you is to live alone than you have to start thinking of what your first step to attaining that goal needs to be for you. Feel free to contact me if you would like to speak about it more in depth. I would love to help you with this challenging transition. 
Sincerely,
Stephanie 
Response By: Stephanie Exum, LMSW Date: 4 JUL 2014

Dear SSS,

do not declare war on human beings particularly partners. There are umpteen chances as you have loved him for many reasons in the long and recent past as sex partner, emotional supporter, good father for the children and husband. Hope you did give the same back to him. So please continue to give them all more back though he erred by the way side. Ok.. Please counsel with us whom you select to get the services. Thank you for the patient reading. Let us start to work with the issues.
Sincerely,
Jamal
Response By: Jamal Hassan Date: 21 JUN 2014

Your two brief statements indicate your frustrations with your marriage and your realization that you do not love your husband any more. I can understand the level of disturbance you experience right now. The proventherapy counsellors are here to help you. If you want further assistance from me kindly follow the instructions and fix a session with me. You can also avail our unlimited email package for one week for $45 only. 
Response By: Dr. Joseph George Date: 20 JUN 2014

Let's expand this dialogue - to understand the history and the vision you both have - where you're at and where you'd like to be.
Response By: Eric Holmes Date: 20 JUN 2014

It sounds like you are having a troubling time. How may I be of assistance to you? 

Thanks,

Jamie
Response By: Jamie Sclafani Date: 20 JUN 2014

It sounds like you are having a troubling time. How may I be of assistance to you? 

Thanks,

Jamie
Response By: Jamie Sclafani Date: 20 JUN 2014

Hello SSS

How can I be of help to you?

Morgan Sutton,LPC
Response By: Morgan Sutton, LPC Date: 20 JUN 2014

Do you want to talk about it?
Response By: Prof. Aleksandar Fatic Date: 20 JUN 2014