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Managing Life (okay i think) but i am really struggling with confidence at work, new friendships, relationships and over analyse everything. Its affecting my work as i fear nervous going to work meetings, especially with more senior colleges that i dont know very well.  Any ideas of what will work would be great.
Posted By : JemmaBrowne Date: 15 JUN 2014

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Hello Jemma,
It sounds like the fear of the unknown, when meeting new people or going into stressful situations like work meetings with senior collegues, can bring up lots of anxieties which affect your confidence.
Your tendency to over analyse can possibly compound your feelings of anxiety.

Try some relaxation techniques prior to entering these situations. I also think that you could benefit from some deeper therapeutic work by looking what are the fears that the anxieties bring up and where are they based on?

I have lots of experience working with people who suffer from anxiety and I strongly believe that I can support you to overcome this.
Response By: Christina Baxevani Date: 23 JUL 2014

Engage coworkers during down time perhaps lunch or aroudn the cooler to gain confidence with out the "work preformance" pressure. small talk like "good morning" and " Have a great weekend" build confidence and reach to others with out commitment. this will build "warmth" and comradarie. Self Esteem is build one block at a time by setting small goals and reaching them. Know that you are qualified in your field and that everyone started new and "had their own first day." 
Response By: Carmen Fernandez Date: 16 JUN 2014

Dear Jemma,

Cheer up  and  break the ice. Your self esteem has met a dent somewhere around the corner and your inner strength  was weakened to meet the challenges and new friends. Don't worry; whatever  problem we face in family also has its repercussion in work place. Human being as a whole is one with many spheres to play different roles suitably. Certainly Proven therapy counselors are well experienced in solving such cases. Please choose one  among us and contact  at the meeting  platform given by the site. All the best.
Response By: Jamal Hassan Date: 16 JUN 2014

Hello Jemma,
Thanks for contacting the proven therapy with your concerns. You have come to a realization that your social skills are not adequate enough and that you have trouble with meeting people and maintaining relationships. You are aware this is causing trouble for you at workplace. Your lack of confidence can make things worse for you at work as well as other areas of life. This is a concern that you can discuss in detail with a professional counsellor. We are here to help you. I am willing to work with you on this issue with any of the modes of counselling process available here. You can also use our email package. 

Response By: Dr. Joseph George Date: 15 JUN 2014

Hi Jemma

It sounds as though you need a little confidence building; a chance to learn how to recognize your value, worth and the strengths and gifts you already bring to those who both know you and will come to know you. I'd be happy to help you understand how to access those beliefs and feelings so that you can move forward and feel confident in the work place and in social situations!

Morgan Sutton, LPC
Response By: Morgan Sutton, LPC Date: 15 JUN 2014

If you become a regular client I'd enjoy going deeper and working out the source and cause of these problems together - in the mean time try to remember your number one enemy holding you back is you and your imagination. Feed yourself affirmations and remember it's about you, the work how you present etc before you consider your impact on others make sure you feel good about you! Then others won't matter so much and you'll end up impressing them!
Response By: Eric Holmes Date: 15 JUN 2014

It sounds as though you are suffering from some anxiety of a social kind. I would suggest using some coping skills such as deep breathing to deal with the anxiety. Of you would like to talk you can email me or set up a appointment for individual session. 
Thanks and I wish you the best
Response By: Jamie Sclafani Date: 15 JUN 2014