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i got married 7 month ago and my husband has nothing sexually to do with me he goes to bed and nothing he just goes to sleep
Posted By : sarah Date: 19 MAY 2014

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my heart goes out to you. however this situation is multilayer and requires sometime to process and get to the bottom of it. Please think about logging on to Proven therapy and talk via chat with a counselor with experience ( there are many here.) It may be something that he is going through personally , at work or with his family that has nothing to do with you, you must increase the communication. as with most marital problems improved communication is half the battle. Please remember also that there are many forms of intimacy and sex is only one. Please contact me if you would like to process this further. thanks Carmen Fernandez
Response By: Carmen Fernandez Date: 10 JUL 2014

Dear Sarah,

                 Thank you for connecting our counselling services. A better counselling can help you to rebuild your relationship. May be after the sessions you can easily understand the basic problem and resolve conflicts and also improve the relationship. In family relationship we need a proper communication. So please contact anyone of our therapist. Thank you....
Response By: Tinu Thomas Date: 26 MAY 2014

Dear Sarah,

Thank you for your confidence and trust in us. Open and public sessions are not much useful in this matter. Your husband also undergoes a lot of stress with this situation at home by now. Understand him with compassion. Proven Therapy counselor and therapists are available on line for you and with your work schedule etc so  please get  the access to one of us , definitely we would give the services which are needed for you couple. Keep the cordiality with him. That only can bring him to therapy sessions for joint sessions. Don't you worry too much. There are medical, surgical  and psychological interventions available for you both as couple. Thank you for listening. Take care and initiate your actions on the right direction.

Response By: Jamal Hassan Date: 21 MAY 2014

Dear Sarah,
That must be a very frustrating situation.  It is one which many married couples experience, but usually after many years of marriage!  The fact that it is happening just 7 months into the marriage is concerning.  I would like to help you explore what is going on and what could be done about it.  We would need to discuss the background - how was your relationship before the wedding?  etc.  Of course, it may be that your husband is the one who actually needs therapy to resolve this issue!  But certainly it would be helpful for us to discuss it further.  Feel free to contact me if you think I could be of help.  All the best to you.
Response By: Sister Jamie Brown Date: 20 MAY 2014

Dear Sarah,
Thanks for reaching out !! Proventherapy is here to help!! I am sure you have a collage of feelings going on inside and 1000 questions...or thoughts...of what is going on. How frustrating for you...Is this something new for him to act this way?  I would love to work with you to find out your needs, your hopes, your dreams to be loved...Feel free to contact me back if you think I could be of help to you.l
Response By: Kari Schulz Date: 20 MAY 2014

Hello Sarah,
You are extremely upset and worried about your husband's lack of sexual interest in you. You only see him going to bed and falls asleep without spending any quality time with you, affectionate expressions, and sexually fulfilling experience. Thanks for contacting proventherapy and we are here to help you. I am available to work with you voice chat, text chat, or email. 
Response By: Dr. Joseph George Date: 20 MAY 2014

Good morning mrs

Thank you for contacting ProvenTherapy. It sounds like you are experiencing some complications in your new marriage (your husband goes to bed without any sexual activity and goes to bed and falls to sleep). I would like to talk with you to gain a better understandings of your marriage issues so we can plan some problem solving strategies. Please feel free to contact me via live text chat, live voice chat or email. You may also schedule a day and time to talk. Again, thank you for contact ProvenTherapy.

Response By: Dr. Diane Davis Date: 20 MAY 2014

 Hello mrs,
This must be a strange position to be in. Brave of you to come out in the open an seek a solution. Your situation needs participation from both of you and an immediate detailed understanding from you at least. 
Please get in touch with any one of the therapist you feel comfortable with and seek your answers. All the best always. Please don't delay this anymore. 
Response By: Dr. Sharanya Dinesh Date: 19 MAY 2014

Hello Sarah,
The first step in solving any issue is to ask for help. I have to command you for taking this first step and contacting Proven Therapy. The information in your message is very emotional, but also brief. There are many questions and circumstances which could cause what seem to happen. It is not something which could be professionally answered without knowing the circumstances: how did you meet? Did you date before the wedding? Do your families know each other? Is the communication between you two good?  Are there any medical problems? I could ask tens of questions but only you and your husband  Know the whole picture. The question is, are you willing to work with one of us so that these questionings could be explored for a helpful resolution?  
 This is your decision to make. My best wishes,
 Rodica Mihalis

Response By: Rodica Mihalis Date: 19 MAY 2014

Sorry to hear of your predicament. I have some ideas what might be going on. Would be happy to help.
Response By: Raffi Bilek Date: 19 MAY 2014