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Problem in married life
Iam 24 years old and its 4 years to my married life. I have 7 months old kid. My husband's family dont like my husband showing more love towards me and my kid. They created disputes between us and our married life got worse. My husband started torturing me mentally and physically. He dont even take care of my kid. I love my husband a lot. Please provide me solution. how can i change my husband.
Posted By : problem Date: 22 FEB 2014

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Hello,

No doubt your problem is unusual because in general cases families tries to command the boy but here you and your baby are getting the attention. I think you should not react over this and talk calmly to your husband, motivate him to recognize himself and his potentials.

Feel free to contact me for better guidance. My details are provided in my profile.

All the best

Regards

Aparna Rana

Response By: Aparna Rana Date: 2 MAR 2014

hello,
The fact that you know you have a problem and wish to correct it is the best sign. Please feel free to contact any on the therapists and get started without any delay. 
the situation you are in is very remediable and you can soon be on the road to a happy married family life
wishing you all the luck
regards
sharanya
Response By: Dr. Sharanya Dinesh Date: 23 FEB 2014


Hello, 
It is deeply frustrating experience that your four years old marriage is in trouble and that the daily experiences make you feel your husband does not love you and your kid. You are looking for care and affection from him but you get frustrated and disturbed through his behavior. When you feel that you are mentally, emotionally, and physically tortured it is a very disturbing marital situation. Your husband family shows some support and affection to you and the kid, but you miss the care and nurture from your husband though you love him a lot. It is good that you decided to take professional help through proventherapy. 
Kindly register with proventherapy and select the type of professional service that you want to use. I also like to inform you that you can avail unlimited email package for one week for $ 45. In this package you might send a number of mails daily and you can receive short responses to them or one detailed mail daily with responses to your quires. 
With good wishes 
Dr. Joseph George 
Response By: Dr. Joseph George Date: 22 FEB 2014

Hello,
You are to be congratulated for the courage to take this first step and contacting Proven Therapy ! The problem you describe seems to have layers, on one hand the husband's family and also the personal relationship within your family (husband, wife and child). I am so sorry you have to suffer. I would  really like to assist you and I have a few additional questions. I encourage you to email me directly to determine if we could work together for your benefit  and discuss the most beneficial program for you.(this first email and my first response are at no charge)
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Wishing you the best,
Rodica Mihalis, M.S. Counseling and Clinical Psychology 
Response By: Rodica Mihalis Date: 22 FEB 2014

I have a few resources for you. Please prioritize this in your life. It's worth the investment in yourself and your future. Register for sessions and let us help you and your family get back on track!
Response By: Eric Holmes Date: 22 FEB 2014

Hello,

I want to first applaud you for reaching out for help. I am sure there are a lot more details to your situation than you have written.

I am suggesting that you come to some understanding (clear) of what you want moving forward from your husband and write them down (take time and really gather your thoughts). It is important that you communicate that with your husband and allow for an open (respectful) conversation with your husband as to what he wants moving forward as well.


You are very young, I am not at all saying you should get a divorce, but being mentally and physically tortured is not healthy for you or your child and honestly I cannot whole heartedly tell you to remain in a situation where you are losing yourself (emotionally/mentally).


Marriage is very challenging in itself but when extended family play a huge role it could be even more frustrating. Are you aware or do you have an idea why his family is that way towards you? Have you reached out to your husband about the situation? Have they always been like this or did a recent event change this relationship?


Is he open to therapy for you all to work out these issues. It sounds like you may need to ask if marriage is what your husband wants as well? or if he still loves you? Its tough questions, but sometimes we need to be realistic about what we see at face value.


So many questions, but I cant concretely give you advice without some dialogue.


Hope some of these questions peek suggestions for you moving forward.

Response By: Patricia Browne Date: 22 FEB 2014

sounds like you're going through a rough time I would be happy to work with you hope you understand where things are going for youwe could talk individually or we could have sessions with your husband also if he would be willing sounds like some misunderstandings please let me know if you'd like to work with me I know this time is scary and frustrating
Response By: Kari Schulz Date: 22 FEB 2014