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my wife and i love each other very much but because of some things in the past and negitivity and the fact i refused to see counseling in the past. Now i have no problem with seeing counseling but she now she wants to move out and seperate. I think its because she is hurt and frustrated and anger over the situation and has not forgiven me about the situation. what can i do to save the marriage and from her seperating
Posted By : ddoubledwc Date: 23 MAY 2013

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Hello, I would have to have some more background information. In the end unfortunately you can't control what someone else will do. They have self-determination and will make their own decision. I would just try to conversate with her and talk the problem out. If you would like to set up a session please email me. 
Response By: Jamie Sclafani Date: 26 MAY 2013

Marriage is all about adjustment and understanding. Both need to listen , understand , complement and support each other. Since in this case you are very willing and eager to make amends, my suggestion would be to convince your wife to attend this session at least to make a positive new beginning. We can then walk through this together, getting to know the loopholes and correcting the mistakes alongside.
It will need a few sessions and more importantly your wife's willing participation. Please check with your wife and I am willing to go forward with this.
hope all works well, all the best
Response By: Dr. Sharanya Dinesh Date: 23 MAY 2013

It is very painful when one is having problems with someone that they love. If you both love each other, it might be helpful if she would agree and you, of course, to trying everything before you make the decision to separate. Counseling would be part of the agreement. It is also important that she feels listened to by you. So when she is expressing her feelings, listen without judgement and reflect back to her what you hear. Hope all goes well. Linda Harris

Response By: Linda Harris Date: 23 MAY 2013

Hello and thank you for posting. I can understand why you are seeking help. It sounds like you would like to improve or even save your marriage. Is she willing to post here also? It sounds like we need to delve into the original problem, frustration and anger and explore the possibility of proactive steps.
Gina Lorenzo
Response By: Gina Lorenzo Date: 23 MAY 2013

My name is Rodica and am an approved Proven Therapy counselor.
I am sorry you are having marital disagreements. After I make a complete assesment I will be able to suggest some alternatives.
 However, I need to know if your wife will be agreeable to on line therapy and willing to work together. Then we could determine approximately how many sessions are necessary and I will make you an offer based on a sliding fee. Thank you. Rodica Mihalis
Response By: Rodica Mihalis Date: 23 MAY 2013

First of all take
 a deep breath...i think trying to understand where her feelings are coming from is a good place to start. Have you talked with each other.  i know letting go is so hard but so is holding on to something that is broken.  i would be happy to work with you through this.  
Response By: Kari Schulz Date: 23 MAY 2013