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Desperate, my wife and I need help
Hi, my wife and I are have marrital issues and I'm desperate, I want to save our marriage. She's agreed to marriage counciling and I'm trying my hardest to find one for tonight.
Posted By : Michael McGuire Date: 21 APR 2016

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Hi Michael,
I understand that you are going through some trying times in your marriage and the first step for you was to admit
that you need help. Marriages can sometimes be difficult work and takes a minute to resolve depending on what's      going on in the relationship. What I would encourage you right this minute is to agree with your wife to separate for        a minute to allow the both to really process what is going on with self and between each other.  I am picking up on      some anxiety in you to get things done with instant answers.  From experience in working with couples, this is not         a good move for the desperateness only adds to the friction when things do not get resolved in an instant.  Make          sure that you have this well planned out with your wife to enter marriage counseling.  Know that through all this,          we at proven therapy are here for you every step of the way.  Also, I want you to really hear that the amount of work      that you and your wife together put into each other is what saves your marriage.  What I can do is provide you
with an open ear and support you through the process of securing your marriage.  Thank you for sharing with
us here at proven therapy. Your honesty is greatly appreciated.  Remain strong and positive!
Response By: Natasha Smith, MA, LCPC Date: 21 APR 2016

Hello Dear Michael,

Firstly, I understand what you are going through right now, it is definitely not easy to strive hard to save your marriage. However, the hopeful thing is you are keen on saving your marriage, and your positive desire is what will lead towards your destination. I am Stuti. Pardhe, I practice Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and I am also a Neuro LinguisticProgramming Practitioner ( NLP) now. I love to use NLP to bring healing in relationships.. Therefore, I would love to help you for sure.


Response By: Stuti Pardhe Date: 21 APR 2016

Hi Michael

The approach I use is the Gottman method (which you can google) and I am trained to Level 2. The Gottman method builds on the idea of the Sound Relationship House, and deal with friendship, intimacy (which is to know and be known) and the moving together emotionally. Some people bicker all the time because they are not dealing with underlying issues. I find that there is always a "repeating dynamic" in relationships. It is like a fly wheel that goes around and around. First one person does or says something, then the other says and does something and around we go. If you think I can help just send me an e mail.

all the best,


Response By: Janette Strokappe Date: 21 APR 2016


you and your wife should first decide NOT to do anything for, say, two weeks. That is the first step. Ask her to agree to that now and insist until she agrees. Then, and only then, should you start counseling, not desperately, not 'tonight', but quality counseling with proper preparation. If this is the sort of serious work you want to do to save your marriage let me know. Otherwise you can only expect more hectic and exhausting developments.
Response By: Prof. Aleksandar Fatic Date: 21 APR 2016

Hello Michael,
I have few cases like yours. U may contact me as i have knowledge and idea to work with it.

Aparna Rana
Response By: Aparna Rana Date: 21 APR 2016

Hello Michael, I am sorry to hear that you're having such trouble.  Thank you for reaching out to us.  We are here to help you.  Please take a look through our wonderful therapists to find one that is a good fit for you.  Again thank you for reaching out, that is the first step. It is very good to hear that you want to work things out.  Take care.  Stay positive.   Tracie
Response By: Tracie Timme Date: 21 APR 2016

Hi Michael,

I work with couples all the time - even desperate ones. Be in touch and we can set something up for tonight.

Response By: Raffi Bilek Date: 21 APR 2016