I didn't ever think that one day married life would be the way that it is right now.
I'm 25 years old, have my own business and am also a law student. I was in a relationship from 2011 with my now husband and have a 8 month old baby. When I found out that I was pregnant I had to get married according to my parents. I didn't have an issue with this because I knew that someday I wanted to marry him. Fyi, my parents did not like this guy from the start. We got married and stayed with my parents. My mother and him never get along. She has a very strong personality and so does he so there heads started to clash once he moved in with them.
He worked for a company earning and ok amount of money. However, his sales wasn't good and later found out that the company might let him go. I saw an ad online for a financial advisor, he applied and got the job before the other company let him go.
I decided that we should move out in order to save mine and his relationship with my parents so we got an apartment. My baby was born by this time. The apartment was newly painted so the paint smell was quite strong and I was concerned about my babies health. Also, my parents were concerned about the safety of the area that the apartment was situated in which to me wasn't dangerous at all. Anyways, they suggested that we move closer to them. They said that the current amount that we were paying at our apartment we must put towards our rent and the balance they will pay for as the area that they live is much more expensive than the area of our first apartment. My husband agreed to this and told my parents that he will pay back the excess money that they are going to pay.
We eventually moved into our new apartment. I noticed by this time that my husband had a lack of interest in life financially. The new apartment that we moved in had a problem with bugs so we went to stay with his parents. Prior to us getting married my father told me that he is going to build me a house close to them so once the house was built we were going to stop renting. We moved in with my in laws and I thought it was pointless getting another apartment since the house will be ready in a few months so we should rather save the rent money.
This was the biggest mistake of my life. After moving in with my inlaws my husband has become the most laziest unambitious person ever. As a financial advisor he has to make sure that he meets his target every month but he is just making it. He was so close to losing his job but still didn't learn from that. He has the odd meeting with a client here and there but other than that spends most of his time play FIFA, spending time on a fishing forum and now has taken a liking to online horse racing. He sits on his laptop almost the entire day. I have to tell to do this and do that for the baby. If I don't tell him he would never do it.
Staying with my inlaws is not nice at all. They don't treat me badly but they constantly tell me what to do with my daughter as if I don't know what I'm doing.
My husband gives a little money every month which I put away for furniture for the new house. I pay for almost everything for my daughter.
Today I had to clean our room myself as well as make babies milk and food. all he had to do was feed her. at times he cant even do that. gives his granny to feed baby. he just leaves all the bottles and bowels unwashed in the kitchen and goes back and sits on his laptop. I have to leave my studies, go wash everything and go back to studying.
It makes me hate him for how our life is right now. I told him that I want to move out and live like a normal family. he said we will when he gets money but how will he get money if hes sitting on his ass the entire day doing worthless things?
I feel like I married a loser.
I am so unhappy.
I feel like I should have just listened to my parents and stayed away from him in the beginning.