I have worked with couples on the necessary steps to succeed in their marriage... Respect, communication, trust, etc.
I hear your concerns about taking action in saving your marriage- that appear to have fallen short
of your expectations. Sometimes marriages can be painful in the sense of having your thinking
that you won't be able to remain united with the one you love. Only you have the power to not
allow your experiences to keep you stuck. This is only a suggestion to you. Try separating
yourself from any hurt or anxiety you may have regarding the spouse (not to avoid the marriage),
but via removing yourself enough to be in a position to stay focus on what is going on internally
and within the relationship. Sometimes a marriage or interpersonal relationships in general can
take a toll over our lives (enhancing individual stressors and so forth). You may need some time
to yourself to sort things out- and when possible invite her in to see what needs addressing from
both sides. From experience, if the other partner is not feeling the same in terms of the couples
counseling, it is only fruitless to pursue. The first part of trust is making sure that you and your
partner are agreeing on a plan that needs to be dealt with. Both parties have to be committed to
video counseling. Be mindful always!. When or if you are ready to make that move, you can
look through our different therapist and decide who will work best for you. Thanks for sharing!